Sunday, May 16, 2010
Relaxation at the Grocery Store
Who ever thinks as the grocery store as relaxing? Well, today...I did. I went to the grocery store by myself, for the first time in months. I had no responsibilities other then getting the groceries. It was the first time in a long time that I was not only alone at the grocery store, but ALONE!
My schedule is one of jammed packed responsibilities. Every waking moment of the day I am either working, or taking care of my children. I do not schedule enough time with my spouse, with friends, or for myself.
I quite enjoyed myself today walking in slow motion up and down each aisle. I didn't even bring a list. I didn't have to herd children in my hot mama mini van. I didn't have to threaten anyone to sit down so I could buckle them. I didn't have to break up any fights. I didn't have to monitor what was being thrown in my cart. I didn't have to correct 2,342 times to stop touching things. I didn't do anything but shop for my groceries.
It was a perfect date with myself!
In addition to being blissfully alone, it struck me how calm my mind was during my field trip. On my drive home I reflected on why my thoughts were so quiet. I think it was because I was focused on ONE THING. Not only am I almost never alone, but I am almost never only doing one thing.
My field trip left me feeling like I want to work on two areas of my life right now:
1) Scheduling more dates with myself (even if it is to the grocery store).
I don't have much flexibility with time, but I can ask for what I need. Perhaps it is a walk alone with my dog or a 10 minutes to water the garden. Whatever it is, it will be with just me...and my thoughts.
2) Stop multi-tasking!
This one has always been hard for me. Since becoming a mother, I never have enough hands, enough time in the day or can ever get it all done. So why try? I am going to start fully focusing on the moment...whatever that may be.
What about you? When is the last time you were on a date with yourself or had a quiet mind?